“Should I send Save the Dates to evening guests?”

The most frequently asked question about Save the Dates is... "Should I send out Save the Dates for evening guests?" 

There is no straightforward answer ( it's your wedding, your rules after all ) but here are some things to consider which might help the debate!

Save the Dates are designed to do exactly that - to prompt your guests to keep the date free in advance.

One theory is that no matter how much of your wedding you are inviting people to, all of your guests should be told about it. Work commitments, child care, traveling, accommodation etc are all required to pre-arrange prior to the event therefore you could send them to your entire guest list if you wish to.

This is especially true if you’re having a destination wedding, a wedding on a bank holiday, or during school holidays as people will need the advanced notice.

However some people associate a Save the Date with the whole wedding and may get disappointed when the formal invite arrives to find out they are evening only. *Awks*
So… perhaps not then?

To get around this you could drop it in conversation with evening guests as an 'unofficial' Save the Date so that no-one gets offended!

You may find most evening guests are friends or work colleagues meaning you are likely to talk to them about your wedding plans regularly anyway. "We've started to plan our wedding so make sure you keep the evening free on..." ( Evening is the key word here -ha! )

Some say that evening events require less planning so don't necessarily require a year's+ notice from a Save the Date card, especially when the main invites are sent out a few months before the wedding anyway so this may simply be enough for your evening guests to make appropriate arrangements.

What do you think? Save the Dates for all? Or for the VIPs only? Let me know in the comments below.